Be choosy when choosing your oncologist. Here’s why.

Your medical oncologist will be a critical part of your care team not only during active treatment but also for five to 10 years afterward. In my case, Dr. Ross is the one who bears primary responsibility for managing my treatment plan. He: guides the types and frequency of my exams (in partnership with my…

Tamoxifen thoughts, so far (1 year down, 4 to go)

I dreaded starting this medicine. Article research and chatting with friends didn’t boost my confidence either. Most notably, I had stumbled upon an article about Harry Connick Jr.’s wife and former Victoria’s Secret model Jill Goodacre. The piece noted that she’d finished her five-year Tamoxifen regimen, not without its side effects, most notably weight gain….

Essential supplies for your mastectomy

Whether the one facing this body-altering surgery is you, or someone close to you, mastectomies can be a scary and emotional procedure to think about. One way to calm the nerves is to focus on the practical ways you can be prepared for it.

The best skincare products to use during and after chemo

Where skincare and makeup are concerned, I have always been a minimalist. I want to look my best of course, but I’m also not one to waste a lot of time or money. I remember laughing out loud while reading this quote, attributed to Virginia Postrel: “Cosmetics makers have always sold hope in a jar – creams…

What a difference a year makes!

This time last August, I was here in Miramar, six days post-op from the second lumpectomy, and fully expecting to come home to the news that they’d gotten it all. Of course, and as happens so often to us all in this life, what I expected and what actually unfolded were two very different things….

The thank you note that’s impossible to write

This morning I wrote thank you notes. Lots of them. I filled an entire loose-leaf sheet of paper with the names of so many who have shown love and solidarity and thoughtfulness in just the way I needed it – without a trace of sympathy because #gross and just flat out no – pity has…

Get thyself a new hobby

This extended season we’re in can yield some unexpected outcomes. For me, the abundance of extra time has fueled interest in new hobbies, some I’m good at and others, well – let’s just say sometimes I take what I think is a good swing and then look down and the ball IS. STILL. THERE. Dammit….