I’ve had as many ups as I’ve had downs this year. Moments when I felt on top of the world and moments when I felt gutted.
On the whole, it’s been a year of blessings and a year of growth.
But that hasn’t come without instances of some going back on their word, others saying unkind things, and times when I felt let down in a way that seemed hard to forgive.
Had I allowed myself to be swayed by these events alone, I’d have had plenty of joyless days, scowling in my own righteous indignation.
And for what?
Grudges are pointless, self-serving suckers of all that is good. And there is plenty of good.
I may not default immediately to the popular platitudes of the day (Choose joy! Be kind! Keep calm and fill in the blank!), but I know well enough that resentment has its place.
And a time limit.
So when it happens, whine – once.
Then, be the adult, have the difficult conversation, glean whatever wisdom you can from the situation, and move the heck on.
It’s gotten a whole lot easier for me to do this year (late thirties wisdom for the win).
And without question, it’s the best gift I could have given myself.
Here’s to lightening the loads we choose to carry.